I was playing a game with Becky, and in describing something my character was doing I unconsciously started to switch out a larger word in my head for another simpler, less precise word. I had picked up from various social pressures that I wasn’t supposed to be smart (in general, but especially as a girl), and I had responded by changing how I talked without even realizing it. Becky was (is!) a wonderful role-model who showed me that it’s a good thing to be a smart woman, and provided Abantey as a place for me to develop the self confidence to show others. I finished my sentence, probably missing a beat, with the original word, and made a point of never censoring my intelligence again.
Lucy Gelb October 30, 2016